The engagement period before marriage is a new experience for everyone, even where you have been married before, it was to another individual, making this experience different. People often fail to communicate for fear of upsetting their future lifelong partner. This can result in going into the marriage with unresolved issues and the couple may benefit from excellent pre-marriage counselling.
Do You Understand Why You Choose to Marry?
The level of commitment required for a marriage may differ for a couple, which is why it is essential that they communicate and discuss both the areas of agreement and the ranges of conflict.
Pre-marriage counselling is an excellent method for the couple to understand why they were attracted to their partner originally and how they expect them to remain the same or change over the longer term.
By understanding why you have chosen a specific person among the world of 7 billion people, gives you the opportunity to focus upon the real reasons why you have chosen this one individual to spend the rest of your life with.
Do Your Long-Term Goals Agree?
Where one of you is a global megastar and the other enjoys the satisfaction of working for a charity in the community, how are these differences going to affect how you expect to live in the next decade or more? It allows you to ask questions about how your decision-making processes will agree in the future.
By making plans you will be able to agree how the vast differences in income can be handled satisfactorily by both partners.
When you consider the expectations of each individual, it makes common sense to see where these areas agree and what differences might arise in the future. By understanding these potential variances, you will be able to communicate better and understand how you may deal with any loss of finance, employment or incapacitating illnesses.
Planning Ahead and Setting Agreements
One is the advantage of experiencing pre-marriage counselling is to make clear the amount of time that you expect to spend together and how much alone. This may also include how much time you spend with your own individual friends and family members. This communication period allows you to make agreements that you both expect to stand by, which will reduce the areas of conflict experienced once you have married.
Where you are going to live and the type and style of property you will live in is important to discuss, so that you can communicate your views and understand the items that are on your essential lists and those that are purely desirable.
